"I feel like I have a new life and I'm going to take full advantage of it."

A year ago I had nothing.

I had just dropped out of college. I didn't really have a job, except for my Monday night shift. I wasn't going to church every Sunday. I didn't really see my friends much and that didn't help with my recent diagnosis of depression. I wanted to get away from home as much as possible so I just went to Ashland almost every weekend to get away from everything. This took a toll on my money, health, and also myself. I wasn't really happy and I used Ashland to try to escape. But the truth was that I just didn't want to grow up.

One year later I feel like I have everything.
I have a steady job that helps me pay for my wonderful car and gives me the opportunity to tithe at church. I go to church regularly and enjoy every part of it. I have amazing friends that I trust and enjoy spending time with. I have a loving family that accepts me and takes care of me. And the most wonderful improvement in my life is that I'm with my wonderful boyfriend who cares about me more than I could ever imagine. He's helped me in so many ways, like helping to bring my family closer together and helping me to be a better me. I am so blessed to have him in my life and I can't imagine not being with him.

I think I'm closer than ever to growing up. It's always been major fear of mine. But with the help of my loving family, friends, and boyfriend I feel like I can and I look forward to it.

Till The End I will be with You. You will Always be my Best Friends.

I want to take a moment of my time (since I'm waiting on my route to print at work) to share with the world some things on my mind. Mainly my friends. I have many friends who I can talk to, but I have a few (or more than a few) extra special ones I am particularly close to. I have friends that I have known forever, and friends I have known no more than a few years. You would think that the people I've known all my life I would be the closest to, but in reality, I have developed the strongest bonds with the friends that I haven't known as long.

I've known one of my best friends forever, but we aren't as close as we used to be. We don't see each other as often as I would like to, but even so, we can still text each other and immediately pick up from the last time we talked. I've accepted that she has a close group of friends that she enjoys to hang out with and that one person probably isn't as much fun as a group of people. So I continue to talk to her when the time comes, and even if she doesn't feel like an important part of my life, I hope that she knows she is. She's one of the people I would come to if she was in need and if I were to get married, I would invite her to my wedding. She will always be my very first best friend, and has been for nearly 20 years.

Now the friends I've only known for about 3 or 4 years, they are some of my closest friends that I can talk with about pretty much anything. The funny thing is that they are all from my rival high school. We met in our church's youth group and ever since then we've been particularly close. We try to be there for each other whenever we can and can always tell when something is wrong with each other. We're also supportive of each other in all that we do. We also sit with each other every Sunday at church, and get together every Thursday for a Bible study with some other people from the church about our age. If we don't have Bible study that night, then we use the time in that evening to hang out at the local coffee shop. We also go out to dinner and a movie every so often. It's nice to be able to unwind from the week and just have a good time and talk about life with each other in a close and trusting circle of friends. I wouldn't trade these people for the world, and they are the ones I would want to be with me if I were to get married. They are my extended family.

Now being in a sorority, I have many people who stand out as some of my closest friends. There are a few in particular that I would like to highlight in my life. These people are all super nice, friendly, and helpful to me and others when we are in a state of depression or when I just need someone to talk to. They talk to me about their lives and we discuss our favorite TV show and fangirl about it. They come talk to me if I am in a bad situation with another person whom they are also very close to. And, they give me a place to visit if I need to get away. My sorority sisters are like another kind of extended family that is slightly different than my close friends, but no less important. I've been through so many things with these girls and whether they were good or bad, I wouldn't have missed being there with them for the world.

There is also a certain sorority sister who I am particularly close to, as we have been to hell and back with each other. It wasn't the most expected or typical relationship, but it was meant to be. We have been close since the first time I stalked her and hung out in her room till like 3am every night. We have been thorough one of the toughest times we may ever come across in her life, but in the end everything was as it should be. We may drive each other up the wall and have fights about things that end up just being misunderstandings, after we finally talk about them, but that doesn't compare to how much we care about each other.I never want to lose her, or our relationship as sisters and friends. I honestly can't imagine my life without this person because she is my mentor, my friend, my sister, my caretaker, my role model, and most importantly, she's my Big,

Each one of these people have touched my life in a different way, and I hope they all know that they are loved and cherished by myself. They are some of the best people in the world and if you don't know them personally like I do, then you are missing out on something pretty amazing.

~Amanda <3 <3

Is this how it's supposed to feel? Am I crazy?

They say that a crush in school is just a crush and won't matter. What happens when a crush lasts a few years? And now you are an adult and no longer that teenager who thinks they are in love, but knows it? Is it wrong for it to kill you inside when you aren't near them or haven't seen them in a week or so? I thought this kind of thing only happened when someone had been together with someone else. But what if you've never been closer than friends? It doesn't feel right to even think about being in love. It feels like it shouldn't happen and that it's silly. Am I crazy? In love? Our just completely insane? Why did I have to fall one of my best friends? <3

Dressing Up and Thinking Back

I just finished cleaning my room and took a bath. I have my sorority's formal this weekend and I was trying to figure out what shoes I wanted to wear. So I put my dress on to see what shoes looked best with it. It is purple with sequins on the top, then a big purple bow wrapped around the middle, and all the way down a colorful silky animal print covered with purple tulle.

As I was admiring the dress, I couldn't help but take a trip down memory lane. Specifically my junior and senior proms. Those were two of my favorite nights ever.

My junior prom, I had this strapless sparkly aqua dress. I wanted it to be simple and not too flashy. Not long after, I started talking to this guy. One day I decided to ask him to prom, and he said yes. Now I had never dated anyone, let alone had a date for a dance, so this was pretty exciting for me. The day came and I got ready. I had never done my hair and make up so nice before and it turned out great. That night we danced and danced and talked alot too. My first dance with a guy and the night was great.

Senior year I didn't really care if I had a date, but for some reason, a week before prom, I decided to ask the same guy if he wanted to go. Even though it was short notice, he still said yes. I had still really liked him, so I was really looking forward to it. The day came and I got ready and put on my black and white mermaid style dress. It had black flowers and had an off the shoulder top. Then off we went and it was even better than the previous year. We danced and danced and talked later with friends at a park until 4am. After that night, I didn't have a curfew anymore.

As I thought about those 2 nights, I couldn't help but remember that guy and how he was so nice and held me so gently while we danced. He was one of my best friends. My first crush. My only crush....and he still is. It's embarrassing to me that this has been going on for 3 years now. Since March 27, 2009. It's sad that I still know the date that I first started liking him. But even though I have these feelings, I continue to be supportive and the best friend that I can be to him.

I keep thinking about how much I want him to be there and be the one who dances with me and holds me like he did in high school. I honestly have never had eyes for anyone else and don't know if I ever will. Just being in this dress and thinking about my teenage years, I have to say that I miss them and I would do anything to show him how much I care and that he can believe in love <3

Once Upon a Time....

Once upon a time there was a little girl. She was like any other little girl. She liked playing pretend, coloring and drawing, and using her imagination. But she didn't have any friends. Her "best friend" would say that they should play together, and they did a few times, but if something better came up she went to that instead. This left the poor little girl sad and alone. With no one to really call her a friend, she mostly played with her sister. But it is difficult to see someone everyday and not get into a arguments or fights with them, so when the annoyances would build up enough, they would have to be apart from each other for a little while. 


The little girl was left out of the lunch table in the cafeteria, and with nowhere else to go she would just sit with the teacher who was on duty and the special needs kids. This was okay once she got used to it, but when it would be time for recess, she would do solo activities, such as swinging and playing on the playground. Because the little girl didn't play with the other kids, she was left out of social events like birthday parties and other play dates. 


She thought that something was wrong with her and that she didn't fit in with anyone else. As she grew up, she hoped that things would get better and she would have friends that would appreciate and accept her for who she was....


This little girl was me. I've been thinking about why I always have a need to be around people and why I like meeting new people and making friends and such. It's because I didn't have this experience in my childhood. I was lonely and didn't have any true friends. Once I actually did have real friends, I became so attached to them that I did everything I could to keep them from leaving. I always wanted to have someone to talk to and never wanted to feel "alone" again. Once I would get really close with someone and be able to talk to them about anything, I would kind of latch myself onto them and never want them to leave.

I've had a few different experiences with friends. I've had the friends who aren't really your friends, the friends that stab you in the back, the ones who decide they want to cut you out of their life forever, and the ones that you've gone back to so many times that you finally give up on them.

But I've also been blessed with friends that accept me for who I am, who I can't seem to stay mad at no matter what has happened between us, and the ones who I can't imagine my life without, These are the friends who I have grown the closest to as well as making me feel like I am never alone. I love them and want to continue to grow closer and be able to be there for them anyway I can.

<3
Amanda

Just a Post.

I don't really know what I'm feeling right now. I know it's depression, but from what? The last time I ate an actual meal was Monday, but I haven't felt hungry. I just want to know what's making me so unhappy. If there's one thing I can't stand, besides my friends being unhappy, it's me being unhappy. Because I'm selfish like that. I'm also probably dehydrated. So that's another problem. I don't know what my life is anymore. I feel like nothing is ever going to make sense and work out. I don't know. I just don't know.

I can't Sleep. There are too many thoughts going around in my head.

I'm stuck.

I'm stuck in the rut of not knowing what to do.

I got the letter I had been dreading from school the other day. Even though I knew it was coming, it still hurt. The thing was that about a year ago i didn't expect it to happen. But toward the end of last semester I knew what was happening. And I ran. I ran from everything. Everyone. I didn't want to face the fact that I was failing. Nor did I want anyone else to. And I got so worn down that I just stopped caring, to the point of giving up.

The thing that I'm most annoyed with is about my Big.

And it's my fault. I have asked her for so much help with school, but in the end I just gave up. We even got into a huge fight that almost split us up, but in the end we were able to fix things. I'm grateful for that, but now that I look back on it I just get more disappointed with myself. Big, if you are reading this, I'm sorry about what happened between us because of me. I know I've said that before, but now that I'm looking back at everything I felt like it needed said. I should have appreciated your help more and in reality, I should've just realized the situation earlier and taken care of things so that I could've fixed this problem. But we all know how stubborn I am.

Now that I'm taking a break from school I have time to think about what I really want to do. Honestly, I don't see myself going back. I hate school. I should have been focusing on learning at school. Instead I found people who have changed my life. These people have also made me realize that I don't know who I am. I may know a little bit about myself, but I don't know my purpose. And I wasn't going to find that out at school. So if I don't find it out there, where will I? "When will my life begin?"

Okay. I've been watching Tangled too much, but honestly the quote fits.

Fhkjurewdfhmhfsdfhhtethkutewryioutewtjlutetjlkyetjtewtjteyjur.

I hate everything right now.

I'm not smiling.

I'm not with my Big, Best Friend, or Grandbig right now.

I got a piece of glass stuck in my foot.

I can't find my meds.

All I want to do is lay in bed.

And Cry.

And listen to Doomsday.

I don't want to talk to people.

The love of my life doesn't love me.

I am listening to my "depressing" music.

I'm crying for no reason.

I'm eating large amounts of chocolate.

I'm freezing.

My internet won't work.

I have to find a job.

I have to be an adult.

I am probably going to quit school.

I've lost touch with who I am.

I'm distant from my faith.

I'm depressed.

I don't seem to care.

My room is a disaster.

I never get to see my friends.

I feel inferior to my sisters.

Who am I?

Nightmares

Somewhere all my darkest fears are gathering.
It's not enough to save the day.
I can't escape my nightmares.

I don't know what to do.

I feel like whatever I'm doing isn't right. Last night I was thinking about where my home is. I don't feel like it's where I grew up. I don't talk to anyone I graduated with and don't feel like I used to when I walk into my old school. I thought my home was here in Ashland, but how can it be if I am not striving to do everything possible to stay? I'm taking a break next semester, but to me it isn't only a break to straighten out my medications and rest and make some money. I am also using it to figure out what I want to do.

I also felt like my home was Phi Mu. Every experience I have had with my sorority has been amazing and life changing. It didn't matter if it was good or bad. If it was bad, I learned from it. If it was good, I cherished it. But how can this truly be my home if I'm not doing everything in my power to stay? Leaving school means leaving my sorority. I can't participate in things with them or go to meetings.

Lately I have been questioning EVERYTHING. I want to be a teacher, but I don't feel like I have the dedication to be one. Sometimes I feel like all I really want is to work with kids. But I really want to complete college and not just give up on my dream. I also question what I were to do if I didn't stay in college. I'd have to get a job. Where would I work? Would I ever be able to move out of my house? Get my own place? Get married? Have kids? Start a new life? What if I stayed in school? My grades would probably continue to suffer. Would I get kicked out? Would I never get to come back? What about the people I care about? If I don't see them as much will they forget about me? Will my friends back home give up on me? My other ones did, why shouldn't they?

See? This is what I'm dealing with. I am constantly freaking out and asking myself and anyone who is around me these questions. It's gotten to the point where I am shaking and can't sleep. All of this insomniac behavior has not been helping either.

I don't want to leave, but I don't want to stay. I just want to find the place that I can call home. The place I would go to the end of the Earth for. <3

Wibely Wobbly, Timey Whimey Stuff

Wow. I haven't blogged in awhile. So here goes....

New Blog Layout, which means I have developed another obsession. This time it is Doctor Who. Props to my Grand Big Michelle Daymon and one of my Best Friends Eric Schlabach for introducing me to it. You should watch it too if you haven't. Especially if you like geeking out over dorky men like David Tennant as well as others, science, epicness, being made fun of for being a geek, time travel, pin striped suits, trench coats, amazing hair, and so on and so forth. Basically, it is cool and awesome, and you should watch it.

So this shows how much of a geek I have become....the colors in my blog reflect David Tennant's outfits on Doctor Who. The light blue is the pin stripe, brown for the trench coat, burgundy for his shoes, and dark blue for his other suit. Yeah....

So enough about Doctor Who (for now....even though it is amazing) and onto my life.

Actually, I am mostly going to incorporate Doctor Who in this part too because I am going to talk about Chameleon Circuit's songs. Chameleon Circuit is a band the plays songs about Doctor Who. Isn't that magnificent? It's called Time Lord Rock. I love how it has its own genre. Win.

So about the songs....I have some favorites, they are An Awful lot of Running to Do, Nightmares, Blink, and Teenage Rebel. Though these songs are about Doctor Who, I can find places in my life that relate to them.

I feel like An Awful lot of Running to Do is pretty obvious, but I will still talk about it.

"It's completely terrifying but it's so so exciting
He said I was brilliant and I could change the world
So many places I've been; there's so much more to see
We've got galaxies and planets and moons
And an awful lot of running to do"

It depends on why you are running, but either way it is probably either terrifying, or exciting. It can also be both. We all feel like we are running from something, or with something. Personally, I am running from something, and have been for years. It's nothing dangerous in the sense, but it does affect me. It's the kind of thing that you know needs to happen, or you desperately want it to, but it doesn't seem like it will ever happen. Sometimes you get those little bits of false hope, and you think at that moment that everything is going to change, and that everything you want is running towards you, but then it passes you and you're left running away from what you thought was running to you.

So don't blink
I said, don't blink
Just look directly at them
And they'll stay where they are
I think they're crying anyway
They can't mean no harm
my eyes are watering
I'm right on the brink
I'm sure nothing would happen
If I were to-"

Don't Blink. Blink and you're dead. Well not really. This song is referring to a few episodes where there is a circumstance that requires them not to blink because of something that can move so fast while you aren't looking at them. However, in this case, "Blink and you are dead" should instead say "Blink and you''ll miss it". Hold onto what you value most, because time is always moving. If you go through it too fast then you aren't able to enjoy it and it just slips right past you. My point is that you shouldn't let life pass you by too fast. One moment you are having the time of your life, and then before you know it, it's gone. In the blink of an eye.

"Hey old man
Rest your head
You're breaking down inside
Armour's cracked, set to collapse
Damn you, don't you cry
I've ended lives
And ended worlds
I guess I've done it all
Fire and ice
And rage inside
How long until I fall?

Somewhere all my darkest fears
Are gathering
It's not enough to
Save the day
I can't escape my nightmares

Dreams have shown me
Who I am
A danger to myself

Trickster feared
Far from revered,
So I must fear as well
Words and laughter's
Wearing thin,
Breaking this disguise
Where do (the) Angels
Fear to tread?
How can I think to hide?"

This one has been in my head alot. I'm not normally the type of person who is drawn to the darker songs, but this one always strikes a chord with me. Specifically the part that says

"Somewhere all my darkest fears are gathering. It's not enough to save the day. I can't escape my nightmares". Nightmares. We are all haunted by them. Whether we allow them to affect us or not is the real thing we need to worry about. It's that feeling when everything you don't want to happen, happens. Instantaneously. It makes you feel like your world is falling apart and there isn't anything you can do about it. But then you have to remember the good things you have. The friends that truly matter in your life because you know they care about you, the good times you had with old friends, your family, and yourself and all the wonderful things you have accomplished. If you take some time to appreciate the little things in life, soon they will out number the bad ones.

"I've got so many different faces, So many different personalities, My taste and gygat cravings, Are some things you can't take away from me You can't stop me dreaming. I used to be old, But now I feel young, Cause I was a boy when I learned how to run, I could never be settled in one time or place, I won't ever stop, Cause I know what's right, Get in my way, I will burst into light I'll keep dying and living and changing my ways, But I was a teenage rebel, and that stayed the same. It might feel like you're defeated, But I know that we all long to be set free, So overcome your monsters, Rise up, there is just one thing you need. Something to believe in."

This one is similar to "Nightmares", but it is the solution to those worries. People can't stop you from dreaming, because those are your dreams. No matter how unrealistic they may seem, or how silly other people may think they are, they are yours and nothing can take them away from you. Be a rebel of reality, and dream.

And in conclusion, here is my favorite picture of David Tennant ever. We all need to see the humorous side of life and have fun with it like him. I mean come on, look at him. He's sitting in a wardrobe drinking tea. <3

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David Tennant. That is all.

"It's Not Aways Black and White, but Your Heart Always Knows What's Right"

You are black, I am white.

You are the darkness, I am the light.

 You fall down, but I pick you up.

If you had wound, I'd patch it up.

You are fire, I am water.

If you were a father, I'd be the mother.

If you go one way, I wont go the other.

The two of us are close, two birds of a feather.

When times get tough, I'll hold your hand.

I've been there with you, I understand.

If you were a pokemon, I'd choose you.

And I would already know, You'd pick me to.

 But it appears there's another, one who thinks they'll set you free.

Yet you seemed to be blinded, by the darkness you see.

This one is cold, but colder than me.

For the heart of theirs, is quite icy.

 Ice can't calm a fire, let alone tame it.

But water can control it, while keeping its flame lit.

 Darkness trying to light darkness, it a bad combination.

But light can cure darkness, and bring illumination.

If you could only see this, and weren't blinded by this "love".

Then you to could be like me, free as a dove.

So open your eyes, and before you think you're through.

I've been there this whole time, right next to you.

It doesn't matter, how hard you try to remove me.

I think you will agree, that I'm the one that will set you free.

Me.

 <3

Give Me Something to Sing About <3

They say if you are feeling down you should either spend some time by yourself and reflect on your life, or talk to someone you trust about it. Well me being a people person, it was natural for me to want to talk with someone. That's hard when the people you want to talk to can't be with you or don't have time, but even worse when the only people you can talk to just make you feel worse. The people I want to talk to are either currently quite a distance from me, have strict parents who make sure they are home early, and those who are so busy they don't always have time to talk. Well that was my situation last night. My Big, Susie, and Kate all live almost 2 hours away and when my Big was trying to send me things over the internet to keep me occupied, my internet failed me and i have to wait until I'm somewhere with decent internet again. I got to see Sylvia a little bit last night when she was done with work, but her mom called her and made her go home at 8. Then there are the people who are always busy. Leigh has a good job now and has to work many evenings, so she can't do anything till around 11 at night. Eric has a very time consuming job where sometimes he has to get up really early, and then has to work in the evenings, so he goes to bed early.

There are few times I get to see my friends, but those are some of the best. I usually see Sylvia and Eric at Chuch on Sunday and sometimes we hang out afterwards. Those times are always interesting. And when we go back to college, I will be able to see my Big and Susie everyday if I can. However, I rarely get to see Kate because she isn't at school anymore, and Leigh, at least just by herself that is, because she is always with other people. Usually some really annoy me, so I can't really be around it all.

There are a few things that I am looking forward to though. Saturday is the Phi Mu picnic, where I will get to see my Big and other Phi Mus I miss. Sunday will be Church with Eric and Sylvia and then Burger King afterwards, always a good fun time. Monday Sylvia and I get to spend the whole day together driving to Virginia to pick up two cats, that will fun. And of course, in 22 days I will be back in college in my own room in our suite where I can be around people all the time.

That is when I will be able to be happy and have a song within my heart that I can sing <3

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defining 'fren(d)-,ship "From friends of the heart, to friends of the moment. All can enrich our lives if we keep our expectations in line"

I have had many friends. Some of them I still see and hang out with frequently. Others I have become distant from and don't talk with as much as I used to. And some of them just weren't meant to be and we no longer speak. Friendships come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and types. Alot like ribbon actually. They both have different categories. Everyone has a group of close friends that would be categorized as the "inner circle." These are the friends you share most of your secrets with and who know almost everything about each other. It's important to have a group like this to support you and go to when you nee help. You truly are yourself around these people and you know you can trust them. They are your everything and without them you would feel lost. I know I would. It also can take a few different people to find your "inner circle". You have to make sure these are the people who make you happy and keep you happy. Although, your inner circle doesn't have to all be together, and they can also not even know each other that well. Apart from your closest friends, you have those occasional people who you know from church or school that you meet up for coffee, or go swimming, or just hang out to catch up with. Those people will usually talk to you about some things in your life, but their most private parts of their life, they usually save for their "inner circle." I am glad to have some of these people who I can still talk to and have a good time with. Another group of friends that I like to include has to do with sororites and fratenities. These people are the ones you have formed a group with and learn to disipline yourselves, as well as have a good time and take part in special rituals. These are the people you will have an opportunity to have a forever bond with and share memories about your days being Greek. Within this group is your what I like to call "fambly." These are you people withing your Greek tree. Your Big, Little, Grand Big, Grand Little, Twin, etc. These are the people who you spend time with and probably go to in times of need. I know that I really rely on my "fambly." They are my everything and my Big is my life. Phi Mu is my everything and because of it I got my "fambly." Throughout my life I have dealt with many friendships. Some are still alive and thriving. Others it was time to say good bye. And some I still keep in touch with, but dont't have that bond we used to. Regardless, I am very happy with my life and friendships I have now, and love every minute of it. <3

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"From the outside looking in you don't understand it. From the inside looking out you can't explain it."

September 18th, 2010.

I never expected for my life to be changed that morning.

I remember the whole day so clearly. I woke up to the sound of knocking on my door. It was my dad. He was with my sister on a tour of Kem. The tour guide asked if she could show my room to the visitors and I let her. Later I met with my dad who was finished with the parent visitation and waiting on my sister. We were at the top of the steps to the student center, and meanwhile, the sororities and fraternities were in the process of what they call "Bid Day". 

Bid Day is known as one of the most hectic, exhausting, and yet exciting days for people who are Greek. Basically, it is the day they welcome new members to their families. Obviously an exciting event. No wonder everyone was running around. 

I was thinking to myself, wondering what sorority i might have been in if i had gone through recruitment. Would i be a Delta Zeta? An Alpha Delta Pi? An Alpha Phi? A Phi Mu? I didnt really know. The only one I knew anything about was Phi Mu. But then again, all I knew was that their signature color was pink.....so that didnt amount to much. Still. I wondered. So my dad, sister, and I went to lunch. While we were there we saw all of the Greek groups welcoming their new members with a big lunch and t shirts. I again questioned who I would fit in best with, if I did at all....

Later that day I was getting ready for the football game, and I was dressed in my best purple attire.

First my RA knocked on my door to ask me something, then my friend came over and asked me what time I wanted to leave. Then I heard another knock. Mind you, this was the fourth one that day....

I opened the door and saw a group of girls, they asked if they could come in, and then handed me an envelope. I opened it and gave a surprising look. It was a bid! I looked at the girls and said "Really?" And they said yes! They asked if I needed time to think about it, and I said "I've don't need to think about it." They looked like they were upset and disappointed. Then I said "Okay!" I guess I scared them a little. Haha. But after that, I was a Phi Mu.

Later that night, I went to the 4th Floor where I met some new people and played an amazing game of Quelf. I stayed with these girls until 3 am. It was one of the greatest nights ever!

Because of Phi Mu, I met some of the most amazing people in my life. All of you who are past and present Phi Mus, I am so glad I met you. I am so glad to have spent so much time getting to know you and grow closer. We've been through some good times, some bad times, and of course some pretty epic times.

And to think, I said yes, and all I knew was that "Our Signature Color is Pink". I never thought I would be making one of the best decisions for my life. And to think, I said yes. I said yes because I wanted friends on campus, but instead, I got a whole lot more <3

"The best way to keep your friends is not to give them away."

I recently lost 3 friends who I thought were very dear to me. Sure we had some good times, some good talks, and some laughs along the way, but something honestly felt "not right". There was a part of me that told myself, "why do I not feel happy when I am with these people?"
It turns out, that I was right. Or rather I didn't see it until they actually showed me. It was kind of rude the way they did it, but it was absolutely necessary.

About the end of the school year, I started to accept what was going on. According to them, they said it had been going on since at least the new year. At that time, I thought things were going great. I had friends I could talk to about anything, people who would hang out with me, and people to look forward to seeing when I came home.

Until.

They started becoming closer with other people, closer to each other, and more distant from me. I felt like maybe they wanted some space, so I started texting them less often. Then I made plans for us all to go out for my birthday, and there was some dispute about driving arrangements. That went on for about a week, and later before the party, we made up. February came, and the party went great and I thought things were great.

Until April. when I finally got my birthday gift. April.

It was a cat doll and some notes from them. I thought they were nice, and I was going to thank the other two, because they couldn't be there that night, in person the next time I saw them.
Before I could see them I got an angry text about not being thanked for the gift.

Then there was more arguing and I left it at that. Two of them decided to visit me, and ending up chewing me out about how I never talked to them anymore, and they didn't want to visit me, and they never liked the idea of a sorority
in the first place.

That kind of hit me hard.

I love my sorority. They are one of the greatest choices that I have made in my life. I love them, and if they didn't
understand, then whatever to them.

They de friended me from facebook and never said anything after that. Even though I called and left them messages and sent them texts. Nothing.

So I decided to move on. But before I could, I thought of everything I had wasted on them. Money, time, secrets. I regretted everything I had done with them, and cleared my Facebook of their pictures. I was done.

Then a few days later, something awesome happened.

My best friend came to my sister's graduation party, but she brought two of my old friends that I had left about a year ago. At first I was a little uneasy because I hadn't talked to them for so long. But after seeing them, talking, and hanging out with them the rest of the day, I realized that I had made a huge mistake in giving them up for people who just "used" me. I apologize to them and glad that they have accepted me back. <3

“Life is my college, my sisters are my heart"

I have never felt so at home. I have people who will spend time with me, people who will drop everything and run to me when I'm in trouble, and people who accept me. It's college, more importantly Phi Mu. They are my everything.

And now, I've done it. I've finished my first year of college. It feels too soon. I don't want to leave. I've grown so attached to this place. I actually went and took a walk last night because I wanted to see everything before I left.

But wait.

I'm not leaving for good. I'm not graduating like some of the other people I know.

So why do I feel this way?

It's because I feel at home here, on this campus, that I don't want to leave. I feel like I am Home. 


But....

Shouldn't home be where you are with your friends and family? I feel bad saying that I feel more comfortable here rather than at home with my real family. But how can I avoid the truth?

People say you are happiest at home, and right here, I feel the happiest I've been in a long time. I've met so many people who have had such an impact on my life.

And now I don't want to leave them.

I know I will see them again, but I can't shake this feeling.

As I sit in my Big's room on "my" bed, I look around and watch her pack up her belongings. Memories of the two of us, and others as well, that I won't get to see for awhile. And as I watch her pack neatly into a box some of the pictures I've colored her, door decs I have made, and pictures of us, I think of the times I spent in her room before I was an initiated member. The times when I wasn't yet part of her family.

Looking back, I question myself as to why she continually let me visit her room and stay so long.

Was it because she knew that I was going to become a part of her family?

Was it because she couldn't be mean to me because I was still only a Phi?

Maybe.

But I believe that it was because her and I connected on a special level.

Not like a best friend. Also a sister. Partially mother-daughter like. But also a mix between all of them. I call our relationship "Love" Because we are always there for each other, spend alot of time for each other, and can be there in a instant if we suspect something is wrong with the other.

I love everyone I have met here. And we will always be together because of Phi Mu.

<3

Sprint

I have recently become addicted to yet another Anime. This one is Ouran High School Host Club. I absolutely love it! It is very good if you need a pick me up during the day. I absolutely love it! All of my ringtones are Ouran related.

One Song in particular I have been focusing on alot. It's called Sprint. The First part is actually the video, the extended part is revealed in the last Anime episode towards the end.

I run and run a thousand miles, and I am barely breathing.
Only the fuel of a passionate heart keeps this body strong and moving forward.
Could it be I found a place to rest? How far until I'm OK?
Trees of the town reveal the time has come once again to shift our shade and colors.

The world always changes around us but weakness will always remain;
Through all the pain, believe in who we are right here and now!

Raise one hand to the sky; raise them both lift them high!!
And you'll cut through the darkness make it go!
The time to start is now! And I can show you how.
Start with me, and the world will be even bigger than ever before.

The road that's gonna take me home tonight is just the same as always^
Led by the brink up all the way of the flicker from the streetlamps fading.

The town's falling down all around me, yields to a breeze I felt before,
and now I'm sure it's blowing at my back and guiding me.

In my heart will be where I will keep this despair
'Till the tears all dry up and finally stop!
No goal has been found but we're not turning around;
I'm tearing through that old wind I knew, running and not slowing down.

Those bitter days are calling for you and me to love.
Do you not want to open no more strings and bonds that hold our dreams?

You can choose to go first, you can choose to go last;
Just as long as you move, you'll be OK,
And we'll still let you go, and you can bet I know
That where and how that is learnt 'til now is leading each step of the way.
This song is what has been getting me through alot lately. I can find a way to connect each part with something in my life <3

this picture is just too adorable! :D

"When One door Closes Another One Opens...."

It happened again.

I got in yet ANOTHER fight with my "friends".

Why do I keep doing this?

I don't think I can much longer.

But I know I can get through this.

I have someone to help guide me. Someone who has always watched out for me, whether I knew it or not....

Thank you. <3

"What is a true friend?"

Why?

Why do I tolerate you?

Why do I put up with you?

Why I give you everything, but get minimal in return?

I don't know.

Do you?

Fighting with my friends has become a very recent thing. I am not happy with it, but it continues to happen. Everyone say that things will be better once I see them again in the Summer when I am free again. But that won't happen anyway. They are always busy. Whether it is work, family, or groups/organizations I am not part of.

I don't understand why I continue to tolerate this.

When I think of the word friendship, I imagine people hanging out together and not always using technology unless they are showing something to everyone. 

I feel like if you feel you need to talk to someone else while you are hanging out with a group of people, then you aren't really giving that group your full attention. 

Isn't that one of the reasons friends hang out? To get away from something, someone, some group? 

Not to talk to someone else while doing so.

When I am with one group of friends I feel the need to talk to some of the people in the other group. But, when I am with the other group, I don't feel the need to. Because they are already there and we are having such a good time, that no one else is trying to talk to other people as well. This group of mine, I cherish greatly. We never seem to get in any confrontations, and we are always there for each other. 

I don't understand why I haven't made this group of people my main group.

I would be dealing with less stress. Less drama. Less everything that I don't want.

Maybe it's time for a change....